Surely, you will have noticed a few things about this photo:
- I have awesome, adorable friends.
- Someone is wearing a bright yellow hat in the bottom right corner.
- It's getting dark outside.
- I am a whole head shorter than everyone.
Well let me tell you--you're not the first to notice. For as long as I can remember, my identifier has been "the cute little short girl". Hey, I know it could be worse, but it certainly has its drawbacks.
For starters, even though technically I'm an "adult", I still think everyone around me is older than me, because, well, they
do look older than me. It's something I can't help, like I have some kind of filter that is preventing me from owning that I am indeed older (I believe I will experience this same sensation when I am middle aged).
Unfortunately I don't usually gravitate towards dressing "like a teenager", so that doesn't help. Let's be honest here--I dress a cross between a six year old and a thirty year old. At best, I can accomplish what Rachel Berry would call "Sexy schoolgirl librarian chic".
And the jokes. The jokes just keep on coming. Everyone has that
one thing they can't escape (unless drastic measures are taken--in my case, wearing five inch heels every day for the rest of my life) and that friends, family, acquaintances, and complete strangers have no problem bringing up on a daily basis.
The worst part? To avoid the humiliation and insecurity inflicted by others, I often try to beat people to the jokes. I reason, if someone is going to poke fun at me, it might as well be me, right? It's become a habit, one I loath, because in honesty, it just makes people think I'm okay with them putting me down all the time. Self-deprecation is all fun and charming until you start believing it yourself.
This is why I am making a pact with myself.
From this day on, I will not sell myself short. I may be small, but I have a hell of a lot of opinions, plans, and dreams--more than some six-foot people out there, I'd say. The next time someone mentions my height or the smallness of my feet, I am going to either:
- Smile, and change the subject.
- Tell them to go away.
- Punch them in the face.
Since I am soon going to be in a position where I will literally know no one, I think I will try to avoid options 2 and 3. Otherwise I have a feeling I would have a hard time making new friends...
That being said, I encourage you to not sell yourself short (literally, figuratively, or both)!